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Lies and Cover-ups
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12 Nov 2005 | Sandra Larkin
I came across a surprising revelation that took years to develop and
manage until its death a few months ago. Its called a "true
friendship". Surprising and hurtful yet revealing to what degrees
people will go to cover-up who they really are. Surprising again
that my friend would cutoff 100% contact with me after I discovered
that a lot of his/her life was a fraud.
As a professional life and business coach, I assist people everyday
to go from the extreme of cover-up to true life revelation being
able to live with themselves in a positive and safe environment. But
when I was "snowed" over a period of years, wow, what a surprise.
Should I have seen this coming? Sad not for me but for my "true
friend" to loose a wonderful, open and caring relationship ...and a
professional coach to help them to boot.
Lies and cover-ups take many directions. This is an exhausting way
to live as you need to keep an account of who you told what to and
why. Also, if there are fictitious people involved, to get their
names and life experiences straight. I can't imagine living inside
of this box. Bouncing around from one story to the next. The brain
is in constant motion and thinking and clarity are skewed. There is
no peace inside of yourself, your job or your relationships.
The friendship ended abruptly by my friend after I discovered the
truth. I became a mirror to him/her of their real life truth and the
extent of the spider web that they had weaved themselves into. Sad,
since I had no intention of leaving the friendship but it was out of
my control. Instead of my not wanting to have anything to do with
them it was the other way around.
Lies and cover-ups take mental and physical energy from us and
everyone else who is involved. They create a life of illusion and
importance in which you are its king or queen. You will bow down to
this life and be its slave the longer it continues. And with no easy
way out, you become its castle to live in.
My advice to you as a life coach is, to identify your lies and
cover-ups and begin to live a real and authentic life. You will be
surprised at how people will forgive you and still want to maintain
a relationship for the real you and your real life. You will find
that you don't have to measure up to anyone but your own standards.
If you haven't reached your "standard success", a coach, like
myself, is able to help you reach whatever success you desire in
life. Whether it be relationships, community, career or personal
goals.
Don't live a life of lies and cover-ups to please other peoples
standards or a part of our society that says we need to be this way
or that. Be yourself with your own unique talents and abilities or
get help in moving towards getting them.
Copyright 2006 Sandra Larkin |
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